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A PAS Game

Sweet Letters & Sour Motives

Imagine that someone steals your car?And then the thief writes you a very nice letter offering to give you a lift in your stolen car?

The thief just wants to be friends. That would be incredible, right?

When you decline and say you just want your goddamn car back, the thief criticizes you for not being very nice and calls you rude.

Indeed, the thief shows others copies of his letters to prove how nice he has been to you. And perhaps your impolite responses.
This is like a PAS game.

Abusers play this game very well.

Instead of a car, the Abuser steals a child's innocence and scars him for life. And then expects the accusing parent to be a nice, civil and cooperative co-parent.
Any accusing parent stung by PAS theory can tell you all about "the abuser's letters".
So many Abusers do this, that it is hard to imagine that they have not been advised to do so. The purpose of the letters are to make the accusing parent appear uncooperative - and in Dr. Richard Gardner's PAS world, the uncooperative parent is to be punished.
The Abuser is not really writing to the accusing parent, but rather, for the benefit of a PAS Judge or evaluator.
The Abuser has almost no expectation that the accusing parent will receive the letters well. The Abuser knows that the accusing parent regards him as sick and wrong.
The Abuser hopes to create a mistake in the accusing parent's response, or non-response, or to simply show the letters one day to a PAS Judge or evaluator. The Abuser hopes with the letters to box in the accusing parent.
If the accusing parent accidentally extends to the Abuser a courtesy that is too generous, then it undermines the allegations of abuse. If the accusing parent isn't cooperative at all, then according to Gardner, that parent cannot be a reliable co-parent and custody therefore should go to the Abuser.
It's so very easy to prove that the accusing parent, angry about the abuse of their child, isn't particularly fond of the parent they believe to have committed that abuse. While right thinking people (and right thinking judges) can easily understand that and believe it to be only natural, PAS Judges and evaluators welcome the abuser's letters. In their PAS eyes, it is proof of recalcitrance.

Welcome to the PAS letters game.Can I give you a http://www.cincinnatipas.com/ParentalAlienationSyndromePAS.htmllift?